In this installment of the Resilient People Leader series, we explore a deeply personal but powerful topic: how to integrate your core values and personal beliefs into your leadership style—without imposing them on others. In today’s complex social and business environment, senior leaders are being asked to model inclusive leadership while remaining true to what they believe.
Jeff Bond, Executive Partner at PFET, and Vicki Hudson, also an Executive Partner at PFET and a leading voice in executive coaching around culture, conflict, and communication, offer a thoughtful conversation about the balance between personal conviction and organizational inclusivity.
Values-Driven Leadership Starts with Integrity
Strong leaders are remembered not only for their results but for their consistency and integrity. In this episode, Jeff emphasizes that truly great leadership is deeply rooted in the significance of a leader’s personal values—and their ability to act on them with consistency.
“It’s not about ideological enforcement. It’s about ethical leadership,” Jeff shares.
Vicki adds that this is not always easy. Leaders carry a great deal of responsibility, and balancing that with respect for diverse perspectives requires intentional effort.
The Power of Listening Without Sacrificing Belief
Vicki shares insights from her experience as a moderator with Braver Angels, a nonprofit that facilitates respectful conversations across political divides. Their philosophy? Don’t moderate your opinion—moderate your rhetoric. Leaders can express strong beliefs while still fostering dialogue and connection.
“You don’t have to abandon your belief to listen to someone else’s,” Vicki says. “It’s not a zero-sum game.”
Jeff and Vicki share how, despite coming from different faith backgrounds—Jeff being Christian and Vicki being Jewish—they’ve cultivated a deep partnership rooted in mutual respect, curiosity, and shared purpose.
Creating Space for Faith at Work
Faith is often overlooked in DEI conversations, yet it is an integral part of many employees’ identities. Jeff encourages leaders to consider how Employee Resource Groups (ERGs) can provide psychologically safe spaces for interfaith dialogue and spiritual well-being.
“We spend so much time talking about bringing your whole self to work,” Jeff notes. “Yet faith, for many, is one of the most essential parts of who they are.”
Consistency Builds Trust—and Culture
When values are clear and consistently applied, trust grows. But when leaders act in ways that contradict their stated values, mistrust spreads quickly.
“I’ve seen inconsistency lead to broken cultures,” Jeff warns. “And once that trust is lost, it’s hard to regain.”
Vicki adds that this inconsistency often fuels office gossip and confusion—things that healthy, values-based cultures naturally push out.
Leading with Values Without Imposing Them
So how do you lead from your values without alienating others?
Vicki and Jeff recommend:
- Clarity: Know what your core leadership values are.
- Consistency: Align your decisions and actions with those values.
- Communication: Use phrases like “In my perspective…” or “From my experience…” to signal humility and openness.
- Curiosity: Listen to diverse perspectives as an opportunity to learn, not to defend.
“Being open-minded doesn’t mean abandoning your belief. It means having the courage to explore another perspective,” says Vicki.
The S.E.E.C. Framework: A Practical Guide for People-First Leaders
To make this even more actionable, Jeff and Vicki introduce the S.E.E.C. framework:
S – Self-Awareness
Define your own leadership values and what they’ve looked like in your life.
E – Empathy
Lead with compassion and openness to others’ beliefs and lived experiences.
E – Ethical Decision-Making
Make values-aligned choices—not just outcomes-based ones.
C – Consistency
Walk the talk. Be steady, reliable, and willing to own your mistakes.
“Business outcomes should never come at the cost of your core values,” Vicki notes. “The most sustainable growth is built on ethical leadership.”
Your Leadership Value Statement
As a final challenge, Jeff recommends that every leader take time to write out a personal leadership value statement. Reflect on:
- What principles guide my decision-making?
- What kind of leader do I want to be remembered as?
- What impact do I want to have on those I serve?
*“Revisit this often,” Jeff encourages. “When you lead with clarity, purpose, and consistency, people know where you stand—and they trust you for it.”
Final Thoughts: Purpose that Endures
“Values-driven leadership creates trust and long-term impact,” Vicki reminds us. “So ask yourself—are your leadership decisions aligned with what you truly believe?”
Whether you’re leading through uncertainty, navigating interfaith conversations, or trying to quiet the noise of competing opinions, returning to your values will help you stay grounded—and help your team thrive.
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